Asking someone out on a date is not an easy thing to do for most people. There is always that looming possibility of being told no (and don't forget the best way to turn down a date) and that alone is enough to keep many people from doing it. Other people go the complete opposite direction. They will go out and ask anyone at any time under any circumstances. Both of these are flawed and both can be overcome. If you are shy and not willing to risk it, you can learn how to better your chances. If you are more like the second example, this article is for you. Here are some tips to get better results by asking people out with manners:
Forget about the workplace romance - It is simply rude to ask people out during work hours. Not only are you supposed to refrain from such behavior for your employer, but you also are putting other people in a position of having to deal with it. People at work should be off limits at least during business hours. If you are seriously interested in someone at your job, then talk to them outside of work and don’t risk their way of living.
Make sure you don’t grovel - It is horrible manners to beg someone to go out with you. How attractive can you possibly be sitting there begging someone to eat dinner with you? Clearly there will be times where certain people say no when you wish they would say yes. That does not mean you should reduce yourself to tears and groveling. Step away and move on to someone else.
Take no for an answer...for now - There are many awesome relationships that started off with a no. Still, you don’t want to spend your time begging someone to go out. Ask them out and if you get a no, then step back for a month or two. After that time, try asking them out on a date again. Always allow some space between doing so or you might be mistaken for a stalker.
Never pressure anyone for an answer - Often, the answer is “Maybe” or some other uncertain answer. When this is the case, you should step back and give them time to think about it. High pressure tactics won’t endear you to anyone. Give them space to make a decision and your laid back attitude will be much more attractive.
Write a nice letter - Asking someone out on a date face to face is better, but writing a letter can still be very romantic as well. Write them a note explaining how you feel and why you would like to go out with them. Some folks are better at writing than speaking and there was a time when writing a love note was an art form. Go back to the old school way of doing things.