Dads Need To Know | Finding Time To Woo My Wife

How This Full Time Daddy Finds Time To Woo His Wife

This is one time that I was pretty sure I was getting it right. My wife, beautiful in a jungle green sweater that made her eyes pop, waited patiently by the front door as I said my goodbyes to the girls. I had it all set up. We were dropping the kids off at Pop’s house and leaving for a night on the town and who knows what afterwards.

I had thought of everything.

I had reservations for an early dinner.

I had a great movie lined up for after dinner.

I had the love songs on cue at home with candles and wine.

What I didn’t know was that my girls would start a tandem puking session before I could get out the door.

My wife’s jungle green sweater no longer has the same effects on me. Now, I think of…..that day. I never knew that such things were possible to come from the human body.

Oh well, live and learn. That has been my process as a father from day one. Live a little bit and learn as much as I can. My twin girls were premature and came at an insane twenty five weeks. They each weighed right at the two pound mark and were not expected to survive. They beat the odds and are now thriving eleven year olds.

Along the way, Julie and I learned a good bit about the parents we wanted to be. My wife and I are battle tested in ways that many might not understand. That said, I have gotten creative in my methods of finding time for her. I am always going to find time to woo my lady.

Yes, I still woo her.

Here are some ideas for those that need them. Feel free to pass them along to your husbands if you think it might help. I am open to ideas as well so please share in the comments.

• I always write her notes on the bathroom mirror while she showers.
• I try to make sure I make her smile a minimum of five times per day.
• I sing “You are the love of my life” to her at least once a week. (Our song)
• I make sure that the hour after she gets off work and before we pick up our kids is ours.
• I try to remember that holding each other is just as good as sex. I really do try.
• I listen at least twice as long as I speak. At least….
• I remind her of our love story at every available opportunity. I want her to know I remember.
• I rub her feet just because when she gets home from work.
• I treat her girls like angels.
• I am fiercely protective of my wife and kids.
• I would die for any of them.
• We pray together. (It may not be what you do and I respect that, but it works for us in the biggest way)
• I put her to bed every single night with a kiss.
• I never leave her presence without saying I love you.
• I always hold her hand….even when other dudes are watching.

These are only a handful of ways that I love my wife. I have thousands of others. When the end comes, I want her to know that I loved her with every fiber of my being. My girls should know that as well, because they need the template.

One day they will want a man like their Daddy.

I want that to be a good one.

Living in Greensboro, NC, Rodney Southern has been living the writing dream for over a decade. He is a father to two ten year old twins and a husband to his beautiful wife Julie. His work has appeared in The Sporting News, Nicean Magazine and countless other online venues. He also won a National Call for Content award in 2008. After spending time in the Army serving his country as a medic, he focused his attention on the challenges of parenthood and the difficulties and blessings that can come with it.